Ben Mayz
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A Day in My Boring Life - First Workout in Over a Year - Confidence Boost
here is my instagram if you want to follow me: ben_mayz
i dont really use snapchat anymore.
Today when I woke up, I thought heck, i'm gonna make a video today. In doing so, it forced me to go to the gym and get back to working out. So thankful for that. this was my first workout in over a year after my injury.
It felt extremely good to go and workout, well actually not really before, but working out and the feeling and mood boost that I got after my workout was great.
I highly recommend if you feel like junk, go hit the gym and see how you feel afterwards. I bet you will get a nice mood boost that will start your day off right. I plan to stick with this whole working out thing for 30 days and just see where it takes me and see how far i can go with it. Will post results after 30 days to keep myself accountable.
cheers everyone! :)
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My Alcohol Addiction Story, Sober Day 1 - Why I Quit Drinking
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This is my Alcohol addiction story. Today is my day one where I have officially decided to quit drinking alcohol and go entirely sober for 30 days. I noticed that I was becoming emotionally unstable, not angry but very sad. I was having issues with low motivation, anxiety was coming backs, I was just not happy with myself on the path I was on, and I really started to worry. Maybe I really am an...
My Journey Beating Social Anxiety and Improving Social Confidence - Update 1
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My name is Ben Mayz, and If you know me from my last videos and are following me then you know I have and struggle severely with social anxiety and low social confidence. I decided, after a year or more that I am Going to log my journey in beating and overcoming this life debilitating thing we all call social anxiety. It's the single thing that runs my life as I am sure it does yours as well if...
Anybody Else Say Um Too Much? Any Ideas on How To Stop?
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if anybody wants to give me a follow: ben_mayz So I recorded a video earlier before this one and when I finished I noticed that I constantly am saying um in between sentences. To the point where I am actually saying um too much and I have to make a real effort to not say um... Please tell me I am not the only one who says umm too much? Like I know what I want to say but for some ...
What's Helping Me Overcome Social Anxiety, High Dose TRT & Confidence
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I wanted to make this video to talk about how i have been overcoming my social anxiety as well as what has been helping me along the way. ben_mayz Social anxiety has ruled my life for the greater part of 2 years and to be quite frank it hinders how i live my life. Social Anxiety effects the decisions i make, who I spend my time with, and the relationships I build and keep. Becaus...
25 Years Old: I Have NO Friends...I Have Social Anxiety
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I finally overcame my scares and worries of making a youtube video over why I have no friends and about my life living with social anxiety. I recently just graduated college and am finding it harder to make friends and also finding it harder just to go through any type of social interaction in general. Social anxiety has drastically taken it toll on my life and I know I am not the only one goin...

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  • @MonicaLanier
    @MonicaLanier 5 годин тому

    U hot

  • @iancoles1349
    @iancoles1349 3 дні тому

    Flight and fight response.When u chose not to have friends then your cured.

  • @cidmon4566
    @cidmon4566 6 днів тому

    I had it differently, I was good before school, became bad socially in school, and as an adult I’m functioning. Careful what pills you take. What it took me years of being a social-pariah in middle school and my effect of not reaching out is if you stop caring about the outcome and have a genuine unmotivated conversation with people whom may come to you or you wanna talk to. Good luck man. Also do the JP thing and clean up your act, go to the Jim and make yourself who you could better be. Hah people take notice of someone that’s different but not overly strange.

  • @davewillems5016
    @davewillems5016 7 днів тому

    ua-cam.com/video/znWu2HCJ92c/v-deo.htmlsi=XY0OMEo9NKTmr6qK

  • @cloudynight1
    @cloudynight1 7 днів тому

    Its so sad honestly and am tired of it. In middle school-highschool i had a girlfriend, i had friends and went out with them almost every day. I was energetic and outgoing and I really didn't have any social problems. After corona hit and schools were closed i spent all day everyday on the phone or playing videogames. Hadnt went outside for about 3 months, I got addicted to video games, to adult content, lost all my friends. And up until today, thats the reason i have social awkwardness. also after corona hit i been really self conscious about how i walk and talk n allat. It was much easier making friends as a kid. I find it hard to go shopping alone, or just going outside of my comfort zone or my neighborhood alone. Or going to new places. We need to make small steps. We need to stop comparing ourselves to others and realize that everyone has his own life and others dont know what they have gone through and everyone has their own pace and to stop being too nice to people. I really hope y'all get motivation and we finna get outta this together and pray to God to help us.🙏🏾

  • @Khamani43Peterson123
    @Khamani43Peterson123 9 днів тому

    GOD bless everyone Jesus loves us all I pray your well ❤

  • @Chellie4854
    @Chellie4854 11 днів тому

    Would love an update video. I watched this when it posted, and someone who still struggles with this, would really like to know where you are with it today. Much love from SC❤❤❤

  • @WildeMike49
    @WildeMike49 11 днів тому

    Med student on steps to prevent hair loss: -microneedling, biotin, scalp 'stretching' routine or device -topical inhibition of DHT (a 5-alpha reductase inhibitor) -minoxidil -systemic inhibition of dht by oral 5alpha-reductase inhibitor like finasteride. Dosing less frequently (2/wk) allows for buildup in skin/scalp while decreasing effects on the rest of the body. -last line of defense is a hair transplant I'd say 100% of people can slow down hair loss, most of those can prevent it for a looong time, and many can reverse it. Needling and minoxidil are needed for regrowth, talk to an actual doc, etc. Godspeed and good luck.

  • @jimb3093
    @jimb3093 11 днів тому

    Get this, I am 51, never married, no kids, no real friends. I know people, have acquaintances but don’t have a social life. I thought it was only me having this problem. I stumbled upon this video. And googled social anxiety. The description fits me to a tee. At the age of 51 I just now discover I have social anxiety. It’s nice to know I am not the only one. I can so relate to what you said. Thank you. I think I will make my first YT video on this topic as well.

  • @HUMBLE-EYES
    @HUMBLE-EYES 17 днів тому

    Just gotta come with pure intentions bruv trynah help people bro will cure it

  • @missunderstood6056
    @missunderstood6056 21 день тому

    Peculiar people biblically means Gods own chosen people.used by various Christian’s to emphasize their nonconformity to the world. You’re chosen, embrace it.

  • @missunderstood6056
    @missunderstood6056 21 день тому

    For thou art an holy people unto the lord thy God and the lord hath chosen thee to be a peculiar people unto himself,above all the nations that are upon the Earth.

  • @danapremo2309
    @danapremo2309 21 день тому

    Listening to your story which is related to mine you need to be done forever. You go back to it you will end up down the same road. One day at a time bro. You got this.

  • @Yuukinea
    @Yuukinea 23 дні тому

    I have let go of all friendships. The relationship was always about a person needing something, so they wanted a friendship. I am a graphic designer, I paint, I draw, I cook and bake well, I know how to listen to another person, I was willing to help with whatever I could. Unfortunately, it was always one-sided. As long as someone needed free graphics, drawings, paintings, help then I knew it was worth it to write "hey, what's up?" sometimes. Needs met? I was no longer needed. One day I heard that I was a great friend, and literally a week later the person stopped writing me back and got back to me after 3 months. She spoke up because she needed help.

  • @AlessandraCaccia
    @AlessandraCaccia 27 днів тому

    I got it too, I’m experiencing loneliness and btw you’re very cute

  • @user-rr5nd3gi8p
    @user-rr5nd3gi8p 27 днів тому

    Mate you are steps ahead of thousands of folks who feel like you, but don't have the skills to put it online like you have done. Fantastic step.... Keep it coming, and read the comments they really matter. Even check comments from those more local to you and form a smaller group of people that you could meet up with one day. You'll be ok, you are lucky you can spend time considering these things.... I guess people in Ukraine and Gaza suffer this too, so I'm glad you can get meds and form a community. Be thankful and help others out xx

  • @BeesAndRoutines
    @BeesAndRoutines 28 днів тому

    How are you doing man? Long time since you uploaded

  • @Zinzzs
    @Zinzzs 29 днів тому

  • @user-kd1il8uc1o
    @user-kd1il8uc1o Місяць тому

    You are my son's age, my youngest son. And I need you to look up the chosen and the secret. Those 2 keys will help you and I don't worry about not having friends. You're better than that. Those are the world we people. You special check into it? You're right copy for amazing things if you apply yourself

  • @siriuspleiades4503
    @siriuspleiades4503 Місяць тому

    Being an extrovert with social anxiety is the worst combination.

    • @Proximity94
      @Proximity94 14 днів тому

      bro i know what u talking about, like being exposed to all those possibilities that are out of reach for you because you can't escape that mental prison, shit's tough

  • @dave9456
    @dave9456 Місяць тому

    I noticed when I was 14 that I had issues with social situations, I was labelled as shy, no people who are judgemental I was suffering from social anxiety, something that has always been with me even now at age 56

  • @rickfernandes5331
    @rickfernandes5331 Місяць тому

    The prime time for people to cultivate deep and long lasting friendships is during high school and college. Once you enter the workforce and/or start a family, it becomes very difficult to make friends. There is nothing wrong with you. Between your career and family, you will have little time to cultivate new friendships outside of work. May be you can become friends with your next door neighbors, but thats about it. Don't be so hard on yourself.

  • @karawhiteman7466
    @karawhiteman7466 Місяць тому

    Thanks for sharing from a mother who has been dealing with this with my son since he was 17 and is now almost 21. The way you explained this really helped me to understand him better and how he is feeling as he dosent say much to me. He has started slowly getting out, exercising which I can see is making a differnce. Wishing you good luck in your endeavour to overcome this and I truly believe you will, XX

  • @JoeB-ud6yu
    @JoeB-ud6yu Місяць тому

    You seem cool

  • @InscentiveAdvice
    @InscentiveAdvice Місяць тому

    Stay away from meds. Wish we were close by I'd love to hang out. Spring is here get out there take nature walks. Sending love from Philly ❤

  • @JamesPiccone
    @JamesPiccone Місяць тому

    If you don't want to have to quit for about 6 months to be fertile again I would suggest taking HCG also.

  • @user-kh7kt5km8f
    @user-kh7kt5km8f Місяць тому

    Ben, You sound like a wonderful person. I think it's harder for young people now with all the social media. It's harder to connect. The SSRI's helped me tremendously with anxiety. I used to not be able to fly. Now no problem. People love people like you that are real and sensitive and kind. The world needs more Bens! Allow yourself to be you. I think you may be afraid that people SEE your anxiety? Hiding it causes more anxiety. Just own it.....a lot of people have it and can relate. Good luck..things will work out. It took me about a month on an SSRI to see the benefit.

  • @clickmick9920
    @clickmick9920 Місяць тому

    Man, we want to hear a little update!

  • @DCcivilian
    @DCcivilian Місяць тому

    I’m married with no friends. It’s scary to have just one person in your life. I get this. To be honest I don’t even know how to be a friend anymore. How do I move from “acquaintance” to “friend”? How often do friends call each other? Can you just drop in on a friend? How do you know if that is ok? How do you know if you are bombarding someone with your energy? It’s sad really. I just don’t know anymore.

  • @johnsmith7755
    @johnsmith7755 Місяць тому

    Ben,where are you bro ? Three years have passed since this video .where are you man ? Are you okay ?

  • @KELLY6143MDT
    @KELLY6143MDT Місяць тому

    Can we also DM you if you want us to??

  • @hippyopium
    @hippyopium Місяць тому

    5G

  • @brettcarson1061
    @brettcarson1061 Місяць тому

    I was an introvert… then I became a newspaper reporter and that was the end of that! Don’t take meds, not a solution. Just keep opening up verbally.❤

  • @MaxwellTaurus
    @MaxwellTaurus Місяць тому

    That's good no friends now you have more money in your pocket

  • @victorbustos2392
    @victorbustos2392 2 місяці тому

    Bro te mando un gran abrazo🫂🫂

  • @bogse
    @bogse 2 місяці тому

    If you are not on Finasteride for hair loss start immediately. Hair transplanlt i s the worst thing you could do, , so so many men have ruined their lifes with hair transplant. Its not what they advertise, Ive research this about 15 years. It should be impossible to get back the honeymoon phase, its the same thing as ex. heroin takers try to hunt their first high. Dopamine receptors get overloaded and sensitized. Of course its totally different to go on TRT and take heroin but the principle is the same... BUT, if you take a long enough break its possible to go back to honeymoon phase but who wants to take that long break.. anyway the honeymoon phase is kind of too good to be true and isnt kind of reality and then you get to your normal TRT feeling which is regular good feeling bu not being "high".

  • @bogse
    @bogse 2 місяці тому

    When doctors says its normal for your age everyone should say it can be normal according to reference range but its not optimal. There is no any reason why 80 years old couldnt have T-levels of 20 years old. With levels of 20-years old he will most likely live more healthy and fulfilling live and also longer life. When I once went to doc and said I have low T he said yea many men have low T. Thats the same thing as someone goes to doc and says I have depression and sucidal thought, yea well many have depression and suicidal thought. Next patient. Take your life to your own hands and get that T what ever it takes if you have low T, living with low T is unfulfilling suffering and shortens your life. But dont take street drugs, they are not what they say they are. There are plenty of countries where you can get T if your country dont understand this stuff.

  • @tinastarkin7199
    @tinastarkin7199 2 місяці тому

    How are you doing now? I have social anxiety really bad now after losing my Dad suddenly in 2021 and will be losing home I lived in with him shattered after him. I always had some anxiety but now it's awful. Hope things are better for you?

  • @Rose-aye
    @Rose-aye 2 місяці тому

    You are so real for making a video like this especially it being your first. As you see many people relate to you. This is just from experience but to me it seems like you are trying to much meds & should focus more on therapy. I take meds cause I deal with more very bad lows with bipolar 2. But for social anxiety you have to get out of your comfort zone that’s the only way things will get easier. Therapy can help with that. Taking too many and not the right meds will sometimes make these symptoms worst. Btw i see you posted 3 years ago. I hope you’ve made some friends. I’m in the same situation now & I really related also when you were talking about being successful in a career that will help others. I want that too & it’s not easy with anxiety. But not impossible 🌸

  • @iitzprestige8324
    @iitzprestige8324 2 місяці тому

    I've been having lots of social anxiety and it's getting a bit worse after I graduated from high school two years ago. I can totally relate to this. It is difficult to even walk up to a person and start a conversation. It's just the voice in the back of our heads creating false scenarios or making up stuff. I also have been dealing with "Phone Anxiety" for a long time and whenever someone such as my mom, tells me to call customer service or even trying to call a stranger, my heart starts to race and my hesitance grew. To whoever is reading this that has social anxiety, we are in this together and we can break free from this! Stay strong people!💪🏻

  • @GiveItYourAll90
    @GiveItYourAll90 2 місяці тому

    “If I can get something easier wth far more efficiency why would I not do that?” Because it might take your fertility away

  • @Ohanxx
    @Ohanxx 2 місяці тому

    Hey, I have exactly what you explain here with the rush that comes over you where you lose the thread in the middle of a conversation. It started getting hard to manage at about 24-25y/o for me. I am 36 now and I still havent figured out how to cure myself of this. This year I started using beta blockers and microdosing Oksazepam when I know I am going into a situation where I anticipate to get rushes and light headed. I shy away from many situations in life because of this anxiety.. sucks to be stuck with.

  • @HeartNDagger18
    @HeartNDagger18 2 місяці тому

    You’re a sigma male, that’s like me, I could just mix with any group but I didn’t feel fully apart of them, I think it’s just because I like trying different things. I got into a bad group when I left school and that messed up my life due to drug addictions, it’s been a long sober road to get back to m being a “good person”. Now I just consider myself as a professional man working to just better my life. I have no social life atm though, I started dating a woman but I had to transition my job and I only feel like dating when I have a good income.

  • @joeblack8478
    @joeblack8478 2 місяці тому

    alcohol is a depresant. maybe that is why your sad

  • @joeblack8478
    @joeblack8478 2 місяці тому

    google CBT therapy, congniative behavior therapy

  • @Ionlydategoodgirls
    @Ionlydategoodgirls 2 місяці тому

    You have no friends nor gf because of your jawline

  • @thegoodfellow41
    @thegoodfellow41 2 місяці тому

    Mine triggers during eye contact and feels like an overwhelming tidal wave of anxiety come crashing down. Feels helpless and crippling. Then the thought of being awkward ruminates the rest of the day. Sucks ball sac.

  • @KennTollens
    @KennTollens 2 місяці тому

    25 is a hard age range to have no friends when people are still looking for partners.

  • @kristof474
    @kristof474 3 місяці тому

    Go fishing. you are HSP and probably ASperger. theres no pills for that. love yourself as you are. you no worse or better then anyone else

    • @Yujiro945
      @Yujiro945 Місяць тому

      How did you assume that elaborate more

  • @SelfHelp-vz9fm
    @SelfHelp-vz9fm 3 місяці тому

    You need to listen to the wisdom of St Hamudi